Hello everyone!
I wrote a post with the same title a while ago and I talked about a few facts about me. Today I want to go a bit deeper (so if you are here for a funny/light post, you might want to leave now, or stay of course, but you have been warned haha). I want to talk about who we are as a person and what we can do in order to be a good person.
I am aware of the fact that the word 'good' has many different explanations and everyone fills it in their own way, so that's what I am going to do. I am going to fill the word in with my own description.
For me 'being a good person' means that you are willing to help people when they need help, whether they ask you or not. The last part is obviously a hard thing and needs 'practice'. I'll come back to this later on.
In my opinion you can never be a completely good person, because making mistakes is human. However I do think that you should learn from your mistakes, so you don't make them again. This takes time and effort, but I believe that anybody can put themselves to it if they want to.
That's the other thing. You need to want to change (if necessary obviously, but I can't think of anyone who is already perfect and needs no change) otherwise there is no point to doing anything. If you don't want to learn or improve, I don't see the point of it.
I want to take myself as an example (because that's why I named this post Who Am I). I am 17 years old, just finished high school and going to go to Bolivia in a few weeks.
In the last few years I've learned a lot about myself. I learned that I am not really myself with everyone and that is starting to bother me, because why not? Why wouldn't I want to be myself around my best friends? The answer is just one word, rejection. A word many people will know how it feels.
The fear of rejection didn't come for nowhere. It started around the time I got bullied (read the whole story of that here, because it is way to long to write again). If you can't be bothered to read it, it roughly comes down to this: I wasn't accepted the way I was and that made me very shy, which led to more teasing and other stuff.
It started going down hill from thereon. I made up things to be part of the group, to no longer be different and weird (which are now in my opinion two great things). I said I had a relationship and kissed someone when in fact, I only dreamed about that. I only imagined myself with someone who wouldn't judge me for who I was.
But the little white lies became bigger and more often than not I wasn't speaking the actual truth anymore.
Eventually I met new people who did like me for me, although I couldn't and still can't get off the feeling that something is not going completely right and that I do not deserve these friendships. When in actual fact, everyone deserves true friendships.
This also made me realize that I didn't have to pretend to be someone else for them to like me and I started cutting down the lies (which was very hard for me). It's already going much better and I hope I continue to do so, because living my own true life is much easier than living someone else's.
I said that being a good person needs practice and that's true. You can't be a good person all your life and you aren't born 'good'. It takes time to know how to behave and for some people it is easier than for others (and that's okay!).
I think I'm slowly starting to become that better person and I'm aiming for being a good person one day, but for now I'll take the way up to it.
Please share your opinions in the comments below. Do you think you are a good person or do you know things you need to change or don't need to change about yourself? Please let me know so we can help each other.
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